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I’VE
DREAMED ABOUT YOU
Most of
us dream of falling in love. In fact, falling in
love and finding that perfect mate is one of our
primary missions in life. When you finally meet the
person of your dreams you are filled with a
sense of this was meant to be. Growing closer
to each other, you develop a sense of being one
and that your destiny together is greater than being
apart.
You have
a wonderful experience of coming alive. You
feel as if you have known this person and that you
can truly be yourself in the presence of their love.
You begin to share experiences that are only yours;
things like inside jokes, places you hold dear and
in common, a loving glance that is shared only
between you. Having found the perfect other, you
feel complete! And when you bond deeply, there is a
wonderful sense that, nothing can come between us.
Loving behaviors come naturally and you vow to live
happily ever after.
I’M
LIVING A NIGHTMARE
Fast
forward in time and, so often, happily ever after
morphs into growing apart. The love song
lyrics of nothing can come between us has faded into
grousing that something has come between us.
More and more time is spent apart. Deep meaningful
conversations are a thing of the past. Now it’s the
little things that set you off on another one
of those arguments that seems to have a life of its
own. You mull over the best time to raise an issue,
pick your spot when you think your partner will be
more receptive and silently despair that the way
things are going, you’re beginning to feel more like
roommates than best friends. The dream of
nothing can come between us has turned into the
nightmare that we’ve grown apart and
it’s not suppose to be like this.
HOW
DREAMS BECOME REAL LOVE
Hold on.
There’s hope. Imago Relationship Therapy enables
couples to reconnect to the love which originally
brought them together in order to become the real
love of your dreams. By understanding the deeper
processes of attraction, couples learn how they fit
as a couple and come to appreciate difference. Using
a process called dialogue, communication becomes
safe and respectful, again, and what had become a
nightmare scene of conflict is
transformed into respectful re-connection of meeting
each other’s needs. In order for dreams to become
real love Imago Relationship Therapy helps couples:
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Become
a safe, healing presence for each other
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Understand each other with validation, empathy and
love rather than anger
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Take
responsibility for their own feelings
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Approach conflict as an opportunity for healing
and growth
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Deepen
intimacy, passion and joy
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Rediscover their partner’s love language through
caring behaviors
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